If you’re prone to having unrealistic expectations, dating can be a miserable thing. Sometimes it’s easy to forget everyone is human. We all make mistakes. We all have faults, flaws, and imperfections. Nobody is perfect.
If you’re a good guy who can’t seem to get a girlfriend, it might be time to take a step back and re-examine the situation. Are women everywhere rejecting you left and right or are you setting your standards so high, you can’t even see all the great women trying to get your attention?
Every guy fantasizes about having a “perfect 10” as his girlfriend. You know the type. Perfect looks. Perfect body. Smart, funny, emotionally stable, always ready for sex, and not needy in any way. But if that’s you, it’s time to stop living in a fantasy world.
Don’t get me wrong, programs like the Girlfriend Activation System work awesome if you want an incredible girlfriend, but the truth is, no woman is perfect. And no man is either. Most people aren’t 10’s and they certainly aren’t 10’s in every way. For example, you might find a woman with a 10 body and a 5 personality. Or maybe she has a 10 sense of humor, but she’s only a 6 in the looks department. Or maybe she’s only 7’s across the board (which definitely isn’t a bad thing).
My point is simply this: when it comes to dating, you can’t be so picky that you end up shutting out some pretty incredible dating prospects. After all, are you a 10 in every way? No? Then, why would you expect your date to be a 10 in every way?
We all have our faults, flaws, and imperfections, and that’s ok. You need to be ok with some shortcomings in your date, especially if you want her to be ok with your own shortcomings. It doesn’t mean you have to settle. It just means you can’t expect perfection because no one will ever live up to that.
Start by identifying your deal-breakers. What are the things you simply can’t accept in a relationship? What type of woman would you NEVER date?
Does she need to have a perfect body or is a little overweight ok? If she has a perfect body, is it ok if she’s kind of standoffish and doesn’t have a great sense of humor?
What if she’s smoking hot, but dumb as a box of rocks? Does she need to have two college degrees to keep your attention? I think you get where I’m going with this. At some point, you may need to compromise or you could spend a lifetime looking for someone who doesn’t actually exist.
When it comes to attracting the type of woman you’d want to turn into a girlfriend, you have to look at the whole package and not reject someone just because they have a couple of imperfections. When you reject women who are great, but not perfect, you are setting yourself up to lose out on some pretty incredible relationships.
Finding a great woman is hard enough. Don’t shoot yourself in the foot by rejecting imperfect women. It’s ok to be picky when you’re talking about finding the potential “love of your life”. Just don’t be unrealistic.