Sometimes, we don’t get what we want for a reason. Sometimes that’s a really good thing. It may not feel like it at the time, but in certain situations, a breakup is the best thing that can happen to you.
So what should you do? Is your ex worth fighting for? Should you try to win him or her back? Or are you better off without them? The reason you broke up is often the most crucial factor needed to answer that question.
This course is for you if you legitimately miss and appreciate your ex, feel like you’ve got a real connection, and feel like the reasons you broke up are things you can resolve, accept, or move past.
This course is not for you if . . . well, let’s just be blunt about this …This course isn’t for you if the only reason you want your ex back is for your own vanity and ego.
As you go through this material you’ll figure out that some of what I teach you is pretty manipulative. I use a lot of human psychology to re-awaken your ex’s attraction and help him or her “decide” they want to give you another shot. It’s powerful stuff, and I want you to use it for good.
If you want to use it for evil, I’d really prefer you delete this guide from your hard drive and we not have anything to do with each other again. If you’re abusive (emotionally or physically), a serial cheater who can’t be honest (if you want to sleep with multiple people, own up to it), or, well, an asshole . . . I’d rather you go the hell away and leave your ex in peace.
If your ex was abusive, either emotionally or physically, that’s also a different story. In that case you should NOT be trying to get back together with them in any way, and you should find a qualified counselor or therapist to help you put the pieces of your self-esteem back together properly. I’m totally serious here.
OK, let’s move on . . .
So is your ex worth fighting for? Let’s analyze what Michael said and apply it to that question.
The first line is very revealing. Do you miss your ex? Do you appreciate them? Do you feel like you have a real connection? Are the problems in your relationship things you can resolve and move past?
If you answered “Yes” to each of those questions, then your ex is definitely worth fighting for.
On the other hand, if you’re only trying to get back together for your own ego boost, are an asshole, a serial cheater who can’t come clean, or emotionally or physically abusive, then you should leave your ex alone. The same is true if your ex is an asshole, a serial cheater, or abusive towards you.
Remember, your old relationship is dead. That relationship was dead as soon as your ex dumped you. You are now two different people. It doesn’t matter if it was 2 minutes, 2 hours, 2 days, or 2 years ago.
If you want to fight for your ex, let go of your past relationship and focus on building a new, better relationship with him or her; one built on love, trust, commitment, and validation that can endure where the previous one fell flat.